“Let Yourself be Drawn by the Stronger Pull of that which you Truly Love” – Rumi
Allowing myself to surrender to Nature’s wisdom over what I thought I knew, has been the greatest teacher for finding my truth and personal expression. It has shifted my personal identity from one of fear into one of deep belonging, connection and bliss. I believe that bliss and connection is our most natural state of being and one which is deeply woven into the fabric of the living world around us. Like a newborn held warmly to the mother’s breast, we cannot help but feel a profound sense of nurture from connecting to Mother Earth. It makes perfect sense to me that there is an in-built pleasurable feedback loop for activities that enhance life. Eco-sexuality is a term I’ve coined to describe the deep, pleasurable connection to the natural world that feels…well orgasmic! The exciting thing is, it is available to all and free and relatively easy to tap into, if you are willing to let go of preconceived ideas of nature and yourself.
Science is now recognising and exploring what we have felt and known in our bodies for millennia, that what brings us life also brings us pleasure:
(according to a theory of the biologist E. O. Wilson) an innate and genetically determined affinity of human beings with the natural world.
There has been a good amount of research conducted in the negative health effects of an absence of nature in peoples’ lives, mainly concentrated on the effects of providing plants and natural spaces to ameliorate the impact of office environments. Some references to read at your leisure below:
As wonderful as it is that office designers and corporations are recognising that employees perform better with pot plants about, surely this is missing the point! What if we could move beyond simply avoiding ill health and coping with offices and realise our potential to live in continuous biophilia, truly thriving within our ecosystem rather than simply surviving?
Studies on the effects on the mind and body of being around plants and trees have shown:
“To reduce blood pressure, heart rate, muscle tension and the production of stress hormones, increase immune health, reduce anxiety, improve depression and other mental health issues, improve concentration and creativity.”
As a result of being around life, being around what sustains us, our nervous system relaxes and we move out of stress response into one of connection and relaxation. In this state we start to produce some lovely neurotransmitters like oxytocin and dopamine. These further stimulate feelings of relaxation, connection and pleasure. Most of us get a surge of these pleasurable hormones during a massage, sex or peak life experience like winning the lottery or eating chocolate cake! But what if you could live a more pleasure filled life all the time? What if your only limitation to pleasure was a willingness to accept more? Coming more often than not from a fearful, disconnected place, humans sadly often miss out on this natural state, relying on infrequent or unhealthy ways to feel pleasure or even numbing out completely. Living from a place of ecosexuality and biophila can reverse this trend and reset your hormonal and nervous system into one wired for bliss.
Learning some simple techniques to connect to nature and become open to exchanging blissful experiences with plants and trees can transform your life, it certainly did for me. Old traumas and fearful patterns stored in my body have released, my energy is far greater, I sleep better. I feel more sexually empowered and in touch with my orgasmic energy without needing a partner to enable this or validate me. I can now direct this extra blissful life force into creative projects and for self healing.
My practice began with an alder tree, one which called to me with her curvaceous swollen trunk and yoni shaped openings, I sensed she had teachings for me, guidance in allowing myself more pleasure. Sitting and breathing with her took me into a deep trance and I felt her energy connect to my hips and move around my root and sacral chakras, releasing old tensions and shame. I felt jolts of warm pulsing energy moving up my spine and she told me off for not breathing properly! A little overwhelmed by my powerful teacher I took some time to process my experience before trying again a few weeks later. Now I have several plant and tree lovers, each on teaching me new ways of relating to my sexuality and it’s gifts. I am very much a novice to ecosexuality, and each experience can be very different, sometimes mind blowingly powerful, other times more tender, vulnerable states of sadness moving through.
What I am certain of is each experience will be beautiful and each takes me slightly closer to my natural state of being…one of unlimited bliss.